Most of the modern day relationships grow in a very sexually-charged environment. For a woman, physical intimacy raises an important question- "What if I want to delay having sex?" So, is there a reason why a girl should delay getting intimate with her partner?
The peer pressure is immense and this is not limited to a particular age-group or related only to the issue of losing your virginity. Even for women who have been through a series of relationships, sometimes it becomes hard to decide whether they want to get intimate with somebody or wait. So, here are a few important points you should think over before you get into the act.
Are you sure he is the one?
There is one problem with sex- you cannot undo it despite your best efforts. There is no remedy that is going to take away the physical and emotional memories of it. Thus, unless you are absolutely sure about him, it is better to delay the intimacy. Surety is more likely to come by spending more time with him. Intimacy is an act of passion, but you should carefully thing about the repercussions because you do not want to end up repenting your actions, or blaming him or yourself.
Are you aware of the risks?
There is always a risk that despite taking all the recommended precautions, you might end up with an unplanned pregnancy. Other than this, you can also contract a sexually transmitted infection from him. You might be ready to deal with such issues but are you sure he is psychologically mature to support you through such problems?
Are you using it to quantifying compatibility?
A common trend is emerging these days, where engaged couples like to get intimate before tying the knot. Many times couples want to find out their compatibility from a sexual perspective as well. However, this is not as wise as it might sound. Can sleeping with someone, a few times, provide you precise answers about their bedroom capabilities? Performance anxiety and undue fantasises can be a few factors that can lead to a bad experience for the first time. So, will you use that as a way to judge or be judged? So girls, do not rush into intimacy just to decode whether he is a husband-material or not. It is not as fashionable as it sounds!
Are you stepping over your self-respect?
Many girls choose to be celibate until they get married. They do get involved in some degree of physicality, but like to go all the way only with their husbands. Many girls end up giving a nod to intimacy only after a pressure from their boyfriend or fiancé. Many couples see physical intimacy as a step to strengthen their relationship. Agreed, that in a relationship you need to make a few compromises, but this does not imply that you have to suffocate your own beliefs and desires. If he cannot understand this simple fact, maybe you two don’t bond at an emotional level.
Are you sure about really wanting to do it?
This refers to your degree of surety about entering the physical part of a relationship. Please note that you can be emotionally involved with somebody with the most minimal of physical contact or crave someone physically without having any emotions. Here are few questions you need to think about first: are you getting into the action just for the sake of experimenting? Are you trying to evoke emotions within yourself for your partner through intimacy? Or, are you seeing the intimacy as a progression of your relationship? Well, answer all these questions truthfully to be sure whether you really want to get into the act or not.
Please understand that the effort here is not to on the argue the act. The attempt is to help you to be sure about physically consummating your relationship. As we said, sex is a beautiful and everlasting experience. Therefore, it is best to be sure that you are getting intimate for all the right reasons and with the one who truly loves you!